Herkese iyi yillar

Herhalde su ana kadar gecirmis oldugum en durgun,en sikici,monoton...yok yok cok igrenc bir yildi bu yil.
(Senenin son ayi guzel bir takim suprizlerle?!, haberlerle  karsilasmis olmami saymazsak sayet).

Umudumuz 2013 hehe...

Yalniz,
Bu yilin benim icin bir uyanis yili oldugunun altini cizmeliyim.
40'a 5 kala ,ne istedigimi  neyi istemedigimi daha  iyi biliyorum.
Bu acidan bakinca fena bir yil da degildi hani...


Yeni yilin, tum Dunya'da insanlarin daha az aci cekecegi,daha az felaketin yasanacagi,daha az savasin olacagi bir yil olmasini diliyorum.
Gonul isterdi ki,yukarida yazdiklarimin hicbiri olmasin..olmadigi bir yil yok gibi,bari az olsun...

Herkese Iyi yillar !
 2013 sizlere bol sans,huzur,saglik,mutluluk ve de isterseniz ask getirsin Dostlar! :)

Bazi yalanlar vardir ki,
Size yalan söylenilmis olmasina degil de ,  ayni yalanin sadece size söylenmemiş olmasina kirilirsiniz...

Garip degil mi ?  :)

Hiiic altinda birsey aramayin...
Her yazdigim illaki benim basima da gelmis diye bir kaide yok. :))




Uzun zamandir bu kadar büyülü bir melodi duydugumu animsamiyorum..

Ustelik , şarkinin sonunda ki  nakarati da yukarida yazdigima istinaden ,   cuk diye oturuyor hani  : )

Count me down, Down boy

Seviyorum bu bandi...yapmislar yine yapacaklarini.
Dunden beri dilimde nakarati..
Count me down asagi Count me Down  diye bir asagi bir yukari  geziniyorum  :))

Dinleyelim bakalim.

No fame

All there is, all there was
On the second lady
Can't take a cent
Take a cut
Of that kind of rent
I'll stand kind of pushed 
Kind of bent, on this heavy land
I'll stand for the sake 
Of my friend, I will see him there

Down
Down
Count me down
Down 
Down boy, down
Count me down
Down boy
Down boy
Down boy
Down

The same
Not begin
Not give up
In a better way
Again, wash the stains
Off his bed
Not to split 'em up
I'll stand
For the sake 
Of my friend
I will see him there
Well, I will see him there

Down
Down
Count me down
Down
Down boy
Down
Count me down
Down boy
Down boy 
Down boy 
Down

Down 
Count me down
Down 
Down boy

Dogru kariyeri secmek

Gunumuz de malum,yasam sartlari insanlari sevdigi,hayalini kurdugu isi yapmaktan ziyade daha cok para getirecek,daha iyi yasam standarti saglayacak isleri secmeye itiyor.

Bunun yanı sıra
benim naçizane dusunceme gore :  insan hayalini kurdugu isin,meslegin,alanin pesinden gitmeli...
hayata bir defa geliyoruz,ruyalarimizi gerceklestiremedikten sonra ,ne anlami var ki yasamamizin (ruya bazinda diyorum).


Asagidaki yazi ,kariyer secimi konusunda fikir verebilir :

Finding the Right Career

CHOOSING OR CHANGING CAREER PATHS

Whether you’re just leaving school, finding opportunities limited in your current position or, like many in this economy, facing unemployment, it may be time to consider your career path. Regardless of your reasons, the right career is out there for everyone. By learning how to research options, realize your strengths, and acquire new skills, as well as muster the courage to make a change, you can discover the career that’s right for you.

Finding meaningful work in today’s world

You may have fallen into the trap of thinking the sole point of work is to bring home enough money to live comfortably. While adequate compensation is important in any job, it’s not the whole story. If you are unsatisfied with what you do every day, it takes a toll on your physical and mental health. You may feel burned out and frustrated, anxious, depressed, or unable to enjoy time at home knowing another workday is ahead. What’s more, if you don’t find your work meaningful and rewarding, it’s hard to keep the momentum going to advance in your career. You are more likely to be successful in a career that you feel passionate about.

Whether you’re looking to enter the work force for the first time or contemplating a career change, the first step to choosing a fulfilling career is to uncover the activities that get you excited and bring you joy. 

Discovering new possibilities

The first step in considering a career change is to think carefully about what really drives you. You might find it hard to get past thinking about “what pays the most” or “what is most secure,” especially in today’s economy. However, it’s important to first discover your primary interests and passions. This can open doors to careers that you might not have considered. Once you have that foundation, you can start fine tuning your search for the right career. You may be surprised at how you can fit your passions into a new career.

Exploring your career opportunities

• Focus on the things you love to do. What have you dreamed of doing in the past? What do you naturally enjoy doing? Jot down what comes to mind, no matter how improbable it seems.
• Look for clues everywhere. Take note of projects or topics that stir your compassion or excite your imagination. Reflect on stories of people you admire. Ask yourself why certain activities make you happy, and pay attention to times when you are really enjoying yourself.
• Be patient. Remember that your search may take some time and you might have to go down a few different roads before finding the right career path. Time and introspection will help you identify the activities you most enjoy and that bring you true satisfaction.

Overcoming obstacles to career happiness

It’s always challenging to consider a huge change in your life, and there may be many reasons why you think changing careers is not possible. Here are some common obstacles with tips on how to overcome them:

• It’s too much work to change careers. Where would I ever begin? Changing careers does require a substantial time investment. However, remember that it does not happen all at once. If you sit down and map out a rough plan of attack, breaking down larger tasks into smaller ones, it is a lot more manageable than you think. And if the payoff is a happier, more successful career, it’s worth it.
• I’m too old to change careers. I need to stay where I am. If you have worked for a number of years, you may feel that you’ve put too much time and effort into your career to change midstream. Or you may be concerned about retirement and health benefits. However, the more you’ve worked, the more likely you are to have skills that can transfer to a new career. Even if you are close to receiving a pension or other benefits, you can start to plan now for a career transition after retirement.
• I don’t have enough skills to consider a new career. You may be unaware of the skills you have, or low self-esteem may lead you to underestimate your marketability. Either way, you probably have more skills than you think. Consider skills you’ve learned not only from your job but also from hobbies, volunteering, or other life experiences. And gaining skills is not an all-or-nothing proposition. You can volunteer once a week or take a night class to move forward, for example, without quitting your current job.
• In this economy, I’m lucky to have a job. I don’t want to rock the boat. In today’s climate, it might feel like too much of a risk to consider changing careers. However, if you’re unhappy in your current job, doing research on other options will only benefit you in the long run. You may discover a career with a more stable long-term outlook than your current career, for example. And you don’t have to quit your current job until you are confident of your new career path.

What if I’ve already lost my job?

Being unemployed or underemployed can be tremendously stressful. It can increase the pressure of meeting mortgage payments and other financial obligations. You may feel ashamed for not working, or feel the loss of your job has stripped you of your identity, at home and at work. This is especially true if you have been in the same field for a very long time.

However, unemployment also has a bright side. It gives you the chance to reflect on your career path. If you’ve been considering a new field, now is the time to research the options and see what might be the right fit for you. You may end up in a much stronger position than if you had originally kept your job.

Finding the right career tip 1: Identify occupations that match your interests

So how do you translate your interests into a new career? With a little research, you may be surprised at the careers that relate to many of the things you love to do.

Career tests

Different online tools can guide you through the process of self-discovery. Questions, quizzes, and personality assessments can’t tell you what your perfect career would be, but they can help you identify what’s important to you in a career, what you enjoy doing, and where you excel. One example, frequently used by universities and the U.S. government, is the RIASEC/Holland interest scale. It outlines six common personality types, such as investigative, social, or artistic, and enables you to browse sample careers based on the type of personality you most identify with. Find links to this and other online career tests in the Resources section below.

Researching specific careers

If you have narrowed down some specific jobs or careers, you can find a wealth of information online, from description of positions to average salaries and estimated future growth. This will also help you figure out the practical priorities: How stable is the field you are considering? Are you comfortable with the amount of risk? Is the salary range acceptable to you? What about commute distances? Will you have to relocate for training or a new job? Will the new job affect your family?

Get support and information from others

While you can glean a lot of information from research and quizzes, there’s no substitute for information from someone currently working in your chosen career. Talking to someone in the field gives you a real sense of what type of work you will actually be doing and if it meets your expectations. What’s more, you will start to build connections in your new career area, helping you land a job in the future. Does approaching others like this seem intimidating? It doesn’t have to be. Networking and informational interviewing are important skills that can greatly further your career.

You may also consider career counseling or a job coach, especially if you are considering a major career shift. Sometimes impartial advice from others can open up possibilities you hadn’t considered.

Finding the right career tip 2: Evaluate your strengths and skills

Once you have a general idea of your career path, take some time to figure out what skills you have and what skills you need. Remember, you’re not completely starting from scratch—you already have some skills to start. These skills are called transferable skills, and they can be applied to almost any field. Some examples include:

• management and leadership experience
• communication (both written and oral)
• research and program planning
• public speaking

• conflict resolution and mediation
• managing your time effectively
• computer literacy
• foreign language fluency

Tips for discovering your transferable career skills

• Don’t limit yourself to experiences only at work. When you are thinking about your skills, consider all types of activities including volunteering, hobbies, and life experiences. For example, even if you don’t have formal leadership or program planning experience, founding a book club or organizing a toy drive are ways that you have been putting these skills into practice.
• List your accomplishments that might fit in. Don’t worry about formatting these skills for a resume at this point. You just want to start thinking about what skills you have. It can be a tremendous confidence booster to realize all of the skills you’ve developed.
• Brainstorm with trusted friends, colleagues, or mentors. They may be able to identify transferable skills you’ve overlooked or help you better articulate these skills in the future.
• Uncover more transferable skills by taking the online tests listed in the Resources section below.

Finding the right career tip 3: Develop your skills and experience

If your chosen career requires skills or experience you lack, don’t despair. There are many ways to gain needed skills. While learning, you’ll also have an opportunity to find out whether or not you truly enjoy your chosen career and also make connections that could lead to your dream job.

Gaining career skills:

• Utilize your current position. Look for on-the-job training or opportunities to do projects that develop new skills. See if your employer will pay part of your tuition costs.
• Identify resources in the community. Find out about programs in your community. Community colleges or libraries often offer low cost opportunities to strengthen skills such as computers, basic accounting, or how to start a business. Local Chambers of Commerce, Small Business Administrations, or state job development programs are also excellent resources.
• Volunteer or work as an intern. Some career skills can be acquired by volunteering or doing an internship. This has the added benefit of getting you in contact with people in your chosen field.
• Take classes. Some fields require specific education or skills, such as an educational degree or specific training. Don’t automatically rule out more education as impossible. Many fields have accelerated programs if you already have some education, or you may be able to do night classes or part-time schooling so that you can continue to work. Some companies even offer tuition reimbursements if you stay at the company after you finish your education.

Finding right career tip 4: Consider starting your own business

If you’re getting worn down by a long commute or a difficult boss, the thought of working for yourself can be very appealing. And even in a slower economy, it’s still possible to find your perfect niche. Depending on the specialty, some companies prefer to streamline their ranks and work with outside vendors. However, it is especially important to do your homework and understand the realities of business ownership before you jump in.

• Make sure you are committed to and passionate about your business idea. You will be spending many long hours getting started, and it may take a while for your business to pay off.
• Research is critical. Take some time to analyze your area of interest. Are you filling an unmet need? Especially if you are considering an online business, how likely is your area to be outsourced? What is your business plan, and who are your potential investors? Learn more in the Resources section below.
• Expect limited or no earnings to start. Especially in the first few months, you are building your base and may have start-up costs that offset any profit initially. Make sure you have a plan on how to cope during this period.

Final tips for career changers

• Pace yourself and don’t take on too much at once. Career change doesn’t happen overnight, and it is easy to get overwhelmed with all the steps to successfully change careers. However, you will get there with commitment and motivation. Break down large goals into smaller ones, and try to accomplish at least one small thing a day to keep the momentum going.
• Don’t rush into a change because of unhappiness in your current job. If you are stressed and unhappy in your current job, or unemployed, you might be feeling a lot of pressure to make a quick change. However, if you don’t do enough research, you might end up in an even worse position than before, with the added stress of a new position and new learning curve.
• Ease slowly into your new career. Take time to network, volunteer, and even work part-time in your new field before committing fully. It will not only be an easier transition, but you will have time to ensure you are on the right path and make any necessary changes before working full-time in your new field.
• Take care of yourself. You might be feeling so busy with the career transition that you barely have time to sleep or eat. However, managing stress, eating right, and taking time for sleep, exercise, and loved ones will ensure you have the stamina for the big changes ahead
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Yolcu yolunda gerek..

 Yola cikacagim icin gaza geldigimden mi yoksa begendigim icin mi  paylastim bu parcayi.ben bile unuttum.

Anı yakalamak guzel birseymis bu arada dostlar..Uzerinde calistikca daha iyi oluyorum sanki :))
Ama cabalamak gerekiyor hayli...

Oyle ki - Acaba söyle mi olur,böyle mi olur..olacak demiyorum :
N'apiim,ne olursa olsun.ya da olsa da olur,olmasa da olur  :))) (Amma boktan bir cesitlendirme oldu)

Hic öyle  'yuzeysel' olarak nitelemeyin beni,zira ani yakaliyorum ve  bunun tadini cikarirken de gayet durusttum ,kendimi kandirmiyorum  yani.Nasil oluyorsa  bu artik...
(Seneler önce ,sevgilime söyledigim su cumle aklima geldi buna istinaden :Evet,seni su anda seviyorum ama yarin sevecegim demek degildir bu).
E o an icin sevdigim konusunda durusttum ama yarin da seni sevecegim dememistim ki..
Anı  yakalamanin farkli bir bakis acisi , o zamandan varmis cevher demek ki..heheh

Isin özu su dostlar...ne kadar cok beklenti,o kadar cok uzuntu.
Bu böyledir,azcik kurcalarsaniz siz de idrak edersiniz.

Ben de oyle yarini bir hafta sonrasini dusunup kendimi kasmak yerine.yarini da tamamen gozardi etmeden ' Carpe Diem' diye naralar atiyorum Dionysos tavriyla.
Simdi böyle diyoruz da,yarin bir gun birsey olur -uhuhuhu niye böyle oldu tarzinda bir yazi yazip sıçmayiz umarim  :))

  Bu aksam,en yakin arkadaslarimdan biriyle konusurken bana 'sevgilisini aslinda coktan biraktigini ama bunu henuz ona soylemedigini  ' belirtti. Gerekcesine gelince 'ucuzluguna sinir oldugum icin ,bana ne' tarzinda birseydi.
Yapmayin boyle seyler ya..
Yani bir insan sizi gercek anlamda uzmediyse,bu sekilde incitmek rencide etmek hic hos degil.
Ha uzduyse,canina okuyun tabiki,hatta bunun icin bile bir takim tavsiyeler verebilirim hani..

Tamam,ben de sevdigim,beraber oldugum insanlari uzmedim degil ama asla bu sekilde de duygulariyla oynamadim ,sadece ' ben artik seni sevmiyorum ' dedim  :)))
N'olmus !! En azindan ' onunla senelerimi gecirdim,hayvanliklarinin cezasini odesin' diyerekten seviyormus gibi yapmadim.
'Kimseye bosuna umit vermeyin  ' temasi var bu direkt tavrin altinda,dikkatinizi cekerim.


Bahsini ettigim rencide etmeyi,baskalarinin duygulariyla oynamayi  yeni yetme biri  yapsa, bir nebze anlayabilirim,cocukluguna veririm.
Ama belli bir olgunluga ?!  erismis biri  boyle  yapiyorsa , piçligindendir ve bu tip insanlara da gicik oluyorum.
Siktigim egonuzu gidin baska yerde tatmin edin lan,ne istiyorsunuz size zarari dokunmamis birinden !

Eghmm,kontrol dışı bir durum olustu...
Yazik , yapmayin boyle yapmaaayiiiin Tamam?

Sevmek eskidenmiş güzelim

Sanki yıllar öncesinde kalan aşkımız bir masalmış bir tanem

Düş yerine gerçekmiş yaşanan

Yarınlar bizim için geç artık

Çok geç artık sana dönmek

Hani giderken bana demiştin ya sen
Yolcu yolunda gerek
Sevgi bizim için yok artık
Yok artık bir daha sevmek
Hani giderken bana demiştin ya sen
Yolcu yolunda gerek
Bitti denen yerden başlamak ve gözlerini açmak yeniden
Belki de sevinçle kucaklaşıp
Başlarız kaldığımız yerden
Yarınlar bizim için geç artık
Çok geç artık sana dönmek
Hani giderken bana demiştin ya sen
Yolcu yolunda gerek
Sevgi bizim için yok artık
Yok artık bir daha sevmek
Hani giderken bana demiştin ya sen
Yolcu yolunda gerek..

Ben ağlarken yanımda yoksan, Ben gülerken gölge etme

   Kücükken de  yonetilmekten hoslanmayan asi bir  cocuktum.

 Kafa tutmadigim kimse yok gibiydi , saygi duyduklarim haric.

 Insanlarin beni kontrol etmeye çalismalarindan , hayatima müdahele çabalarindan tek kelimeyle nefret ediyorum...Hani bir de buna hakki olduklarini düsünmüyorlar mi,deli oluyorum.
Ustelik,yonetilmeye calisildikca  aksini yapmam da cabasi...daha cok damarima basiliyor o zaman yani.

Kontrol etmeye calisanlarin,kendi hayatlari uzerinde kontrolu olmadigi icin sizin uzerinizde deneme yapmaya calisirlar.Bunu fark etmedim degil...

Bazen,
Yalniz olduğumu düsünmüyor degilim... ama
boyle  olmayip , diger insanlar tarafindan yönetilmeye calismaktansa ...tek basima kalmayi,kesinlikle yeğlerim.

                                         
Hepsinin cani cehenneme...!  Hayat benim hayatim, doğrularim da hatalarim da benim.
                                                                                                    ..kime ne !

I Can Not Think Of Anybody Else Since I Met You

Jason'i Mason'i  bilemem de nakarati pek guzel bu parcanin...

And I can’t think of anybody else since I met you

And things don’t seem to feel the same the way they used to do

sigh...
memories,